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Monday, November 11, 2013

Eczema and Mommy Angst Part 1

WARNING: There is talk of baby poop in this post.  If you don't want to hear about it, 
then you can skip this one.

So here it is in written form.

Craig has eczema.


I have chatted with a few friends about it.  I have researched way too much about his eczema online.  It bothers me mentally and emotionally constantly.  I love all of my children so much and if something is wrong with them, I (of course) want to fix it.

Growing up my mother did an EXCELLENT job at learning how to manage my allergies and asthma.   So much so that I have grown into a person that doesn't feel defined or limited by these problems even though they are somewhat limiting.  As a mother myself now, I desperately desire to learn to manage my children's ailments so that I can teach them how to manage them when they are old enough.

But some things just seem complicated.  Like eczema.  I am having trouble working this out.

When Craig was about two months old, I noticed he had dry skin on his legs.  I didn't think a thing about it.   "Oh, dry skin... no big deal... babies get it... it goes away."

Then after a few weeks (months?) it dawned on me... this is not going away

Then I googled "infant eczema" having no idea what would pop up.  That was probably the biggest mistake of my life.  HORROR stories about people with eczema and how it controlled (and ruined) their lives were everywhere on the internet.  Anyone that knows me will tell you that I cannot stand listening to deep dark tales of what terrible thing happened to so-and-so (especially when it doesn't effect me or someone I have a connection to) because it effects me SO MUCH emotionally.  I found myself treasuring the sweet skin that Craig did have that was not effected, since I was afraid that it would later be covered by dry scaly weeping places.  And to a large degree, I was right.  Eventually, most of his arms and legs began to change and become covered in red and dry, weeping spots.

So my stress level about eczema went like this...


I learned that steroids would not be safe for babies since things put on a baby's skin can enter the their bloodstream prior to six months old.  Apparently it is why babies should not wear sunscreen or go swimming in chlorine, etc.  However, at Craig's four month check up, the doctor recommended Hydro-cortisone cream as the only solution while I began experimenting with cutting out certain foods.  I wasn't ready to use hydro-cortisone cream yet.

So we found some helpful solutions at around four months:
1.  Prayer
Honestly, we began to pray for Craig directly- laying on hands and with authority for weeks (and making a call to Bethel church and having him prayed for)- and parts of his eczema (noticeably his forehead and patches on his legs) began to clear up A LOT.  It was amazing.   Besides some of his eczema clearing up, it was a good time of being ministered to by God personally also.

2. Water + Cerave Lotion
Several times, I wet Craig's skin and put lotion on it while it was still wet.  This seemed pretty effective.

3. Bathing Once/Week
This seemed to be the perfect balance for bathing between not too much and not enough.

4. Only wearing cotton clothing

5. Putting all of our clothing on an extra rinse cycle to get out any extra detergent (and using all free and clear type detergents and dryer sheets.)

6. Vitamin D supplements (not sure if he really needs this, but many people have found it has helped their eczema!)

However, by his six month appointment there were two pretty significant spots (in the creases of one elbow and one ankle) that became open wounds and had a yellow film indicating infection (in spite of the fact that many other spots seemed better).  Just after this appointment, he began to have diarrhea.  One round of antibiotics later, he still had yellow film on the areas and still had diarrhea. 

I thought maybe the antibiotics had caused the diarrhea- or maybe he was teething?- or maybe he was having very loose stool due to not eating solids (I delayed that past 7 months).  Sometimes when he ate bananas or sweet potatoes his bm's would thicken up (sorry if this is TMI... you were warned!)

Finally, Melody got sick with something too (another story for another post?) and Craig had an outburst of what looked like hives (that I could not pinpoint a cause for), so I took both kids to the doctor the same day where Craig tested postive for strep throat.

Continue reading Part 2 of this post.

Thursday, October 31, 2013

Milk Jug Halloween Decorations

Crayola posted this on their facebook page and I just had to re-post this here to bookmark the idea for myself!

Milk Jug + Black Marker + Sand (to keep it from blowing away) + orange glow sticks = fun/easy decorations to make with kids!



What a wonderfully kid-friendly, easy- peas-y idea for a little Halloween fun!  Thanks Crayola!

In His Grace,
Rachel

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Crazy over Christmas

You can go ahead and hate me... I am one of those people this year.

Halloween is tomorrow and I am already ready for Christmas! (Emotionally ready, not prepared ready, ha!)

Having kids makes the holidays so much fun.  Melody is old enough to begin some real traditions with her and I am excited to incorporate the twins into a few of the traditions we already have.

Also I am actually looking forward to cooking for Thanksgiving.
  The beauty of having Thanksgiving at your own house is that you get to be in charge of the menu.  This will come in handy since we have some food sensitivities to work around (Melody- no peanuts, no white flour, Me- no dairy, Criag- no bananas).

BUT crazy as it may seem, I (currently) feel UP to the challenge!  From somewhere deep inside of me the energy and enthusiasm is welling up to make a yummy Thanksgiving dinner and work around all of our food challenges.

If I can wrangle my time well, maybe I can get a few things posted this year about our menu and our holiday traditions- but no promises.  (Just being honest. :) )

Okay... off to be sure Melody's Halloween costume is ready for tomorrow!


In His Grace,
Rachel

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Inspire Me! Monday: Getting your children to listen

Getting your children to listen.

Am I the only person who has a child who listens pretty well to others but suddenly has selective hearing when it's time to listen to Mommy or Daddy? 

Really?!   I AM the only one?!

:)

It has been awhile since my last Inspire Me! Monday post, but I found this article online and wanted to put it somewhere that I couldn't lose it and also share it with others.

As a parent, I am constantly learning new things and searching for positive and encouraging ways to fulfill my role as a mommy.  I have read a lot of books lately and found a lot helpful information about how to work things out with my 3 year old as she becomes more and more independent, resourceful and opinionated about her activities and her time.  She is a sensitive, caring, perceptive, structure-loving (and I am not a structured mommy!) beautiful, wonderful girl.  Sometimes we are so different though (and sometimes we are so the same) that I need a little inspiration about how to navigate these young and formative years.

This article by Dr. Sears is one of the most helpful (and short!) articles I have read about speaking to your children and avoiding power struggles while still teaching your child to heed your voice!  I was excited to see there are a few things on the list that I already do (and that work!) and also to see that there were many new ideas that I can try! 

25 Ways to Talk so Children Will Listen

So what do you do to help your child become a better listener? 

Love,
Rachel

PS- Yes I know that it is Sunday, I am just ahead for Monday! :)



Monday, October 14, 2013

Still here!

I'm still here!  We've just been a bit... well, um... busy at our house these days.

Let me just state (not complain- just state)... 1 preschooler, 1 special needs baby and twin babies is hard.  

I knew that life would be hard with four kids, and I fully anticipated that.  Let me also say, that my kids are a joy.  Sometimes I walk from kid to kid, rocking, nursing, feeding bottles and singing, rubbing backs and snuggling at bed time, and in between kids I think "that was such a sweet moment... *deep breath*... let me go find the other baby/kid that hasn't settled yet and have more of them!"  It is an intensely tired kind of enjoyment that lives over here in our tiny house.

Here's what we are up to in list form (it's all I have time for).

*Peanut is pretty much down to one nap.  However, he took a morning nap today, so I guess sometimes we are still doing two? Update: didn't fall asleep for the 2nd one- so I guess one it is :)

*Craig is pulling to stand and trying to cruise.

*Melody is in preschool and loving it.

*Melody officially has a peanut allergy complete with epi-pen.

*I feel like we are fighting a losing battle with the yeast infection/white flour (melody) and eczema (craig) issues... I sense the GAPS diet looming in our future in a couple of years.

*Not having time to cook food is keeping me from introducing baby led weaning... I gave bananas- I think Craig is allergic to them (rashy eczema got worse on face and fingers after eating them), so the babies are still pretty much always breastfed (except for the bottles they get a few times a week while I teach dance or deal with milk supply issues).

*I HEART breastfeeding twins. 

*We bought the kids redskins jerseys/onesies (and I got one too!)... but this is the stinkiest season on record (in our lifetimes as fans ;) ).  Good thing we don't have much time to watch.

*I am currently still listening to baby lullabies on pandora even though the kids are down for naps.  It is soothing :)

*Besides taking care of kids, I am teaching dance twice a week and helping to put on the Nutcracker show this fall.  Those two things are pretty much all I have time for.

*And going to church on Sunday.  Church has pretty much ROCKED lately.

*Confession: I am late to church EVERY Sunday, by a LOT.  Thank you to all the really nice ushers who help us find seats late in the game :)  Feeding 3 babies (one who is a slow special needs bottle eater), dressing 6 people and showering (sometimes) 2 of us takes time.  There is no changing this right now.  I am trying really hard not to feel guilty about it and just enjoy the church I am there for. 

*My parents visited this past week end and it was a breath of fresh air!

*I am out of time to type... I hear babies :)  Yay 15 minutes of bliss :)


Prayers appreciated :)
Rachel

PS Someone told me they are praying for energy for me on Sunday (thank you!), anyone can feel free to pray for that.  And health.  We are needing some major prayer for health in our whole family over here if you are up for it.  Thank you in advance :)

Friday, July 12, 2013

Pinterest Fun

So here is a random question... When you pin something on pinterest, do you take the time to read the article at it's original source or do you just pin things based on the picture listed?

I always read the original source and I don't pin it unless I like the whole original thing.  I am a bit obsessive about "Pinterest clutter" (a concept I just made up ;-) ).  I definitely don't pin anything I wouldn't actually do or something I haven't read.  That doesn't mean I get to trying all the recipes or all the ideas, but I at least don't pin ones that I think are cool but would never do (that is what the "like" button is for). 

So what about you?  Do you pin every thing that you like?  Do you only pin a few things? Every thing?  What are your general feelings about pinterest?  Love it? Hate it?  Tell me in the comments!

Just curious ;)  Respond and later I'll add comments to the body of this post!

Love,
Rachel


Thursday, April 25, 2013

Lately...

What we've been up to lately...

Getting our house ready to sell.

In the last month or so we have started thinking about moving to a home that will sustain our family of 6 long term.  We love our house now.  It is 1100 square feet and it doesn't even feel too small for us right now.  But we know that while it feels comfortably full, there is no room for growth.  NOT that we are planning to grow any time soon or anything... but we aren't ready to say we are done with having kids.  We have no idea how they may come in the future (naturally, through foster care, through adoption) but the next house we buy will need room for the possibility. 

After thinking about this (and also that we need to live in a little different neighborhood with small children), we have found wonderful houses twice.  Both times they have sold before we could make an offer.  Mostly since no offer will be taken seriously until our house is on the market.  Now that our dream houses (for the right price) are no longer out there we are still feeling motivated to move.  Even if we rent for awhile, that is okay, since owning a home is currently holding us back from being able to buy a new one (especially since we aren't interested in renting ours out and becoming landlords).

So we have been moving forward getting ready to sell.  We have lined up someone to do repairs around the house.  We are getting a new front door.  The bathroom ceiling has been repainted.  Several other rooms will be painted in the process.  We are rearranging furniture to make more sense to potential buyers... And as someone who loves to decorate and "stage", I am also having fun making the house look nice! :)

We are also still dealing a lot with Peanut's health issues.  Pray for him.  There are too many things going on with him to even list.  There is also a court date coming up at the end of May that will give us an idea of what his life holds for the next season.  Just pray for Peanut if you think of him.  Pray God's will be done.  Pray protection for his little life and for complete healing for his illnesses/complications.  Lately, it has started to make me very sad to see how delayed he really is... I am starting to feel helpless to help him improve- even doing all of the therapies, etc. it is hard to wait for improvement that comes so slowly.

Peanut started to say "Mama" this week.  My heart melts every. time.

Melody is a little girl now (she would say a big girl :)).  She is potty training.  It is going well so far.

The twins are doing great.  Craig is humongous.   I call him a "hoss".  Georgia is precious and peaceful.  Melody has started to call her "Georgie".  Sleep wise the twins are finally on a pretty good routine.  They eat around 6am, 9 or 10am, 1pm, 4pm, 6:30pm and 9 or 9:30pm- with the occasional extra feeding thrown into the late afternoon.  Then Craig has been sleeping until 5am or 6am (depending on if the last feeding is closer to 9pm or 10pm) and Georgia is still waking up once at night- usually around 3am.  I don't nurse the twins together- they are REALLY big.  It is kind of hard to juggle them both at the same time.  Not to mention it means I am stationary if I feed both together.  I need the ability to chase my other little ones around or care for them (make them meals, bottles, etc) so while I don't "Tandem Nurse" I do "Tandem Care" for my family.  I am usually nursing a baby while giving Peanut his morning bottle, or nursing a baby while I help Melody go to the potty.  I have started to use a ring sling which has seriously helped the nursing while doing something else thing. 

All in all we are insanely busy.  We are also insanely crazy thinking about selling a house/moving while we adjust to twins and care for Peanut in the midst of all of these health issues.  But it is fun.  And one day when we live in a house that we aren't going to move from for a long time and Peanut is a little bit healthier and the twins are a little older, life will feel positively easy.  Easy Peasy as I like to tell Melody.  But I'm not longing for that kind of easy at the moment.  I am loving these crazy days.  As I said on Facebook recently, this is a good kind of chaos. 

Our children are blessings.  Our life is crazy, but happy.  And again, we are so thankful to everyone who has helped us in this season.  We really are doing well because of you. 

I am off to get a few hours of sleep now.  Well... after I attempt to clean up our living room a little bit.  We moved furniture around tonight, so it needs a little help... then I will get a few winks- I promise! :)

Love,
Rachel